DNR

My grandmother, aka Nonny, has been in the hospital since yesterday.

Her blood pressure went too low and she almost passed out.

She will be 93 one month from today.

She's feeling better now, and they are not sure exactly what's wrong, but they are keeping her for some tests.

She's survived cancer, strokes, and a slew of other health issues, but she is still kickin' and doing great.

The point of my mentioning all of this is that the doctor came in and was talking to my mom (her caregiver) and Nonny about Advanced Directives and DNR.  

My grandmother is not someone who likes to talk about death and what will happen after she goes, so it has been very difficult to get answers out of her as to what her wishes are.  

My mom made a good point in saying that it is already going to be a tough time if a situation arises when a DNR would be necessary, and having the pressure to make the decision for another person is far too emotional and stressful for her.

Also, what if you made that decision for someone, and then spent forever wondering if you had made the right choice?

If everyone could at least have a simple conversation with the people close to them to let their wishes be known, it could be so much less heartache at a time that is filled with enough of it already.

Most people I know don't like to talk about death...hell, I don't like to talk about it!

But I am going to sit down and have the conversation anyway.

I'm young (ish), but anything can happen, and it would bring me a sense of peace to know that my family had no question about my wishes.

Nonny and my mother are going to have the hospital take care of all of the paperwork before she is discharged.  

I encourage everyone to look at the site below, or at least have a conversation about this with their loved ones.

http://www.caringinfo.org/i4a/pages/index.cfm?pageid=3289